Almost everybody has experienced break-ups. You know the man-woman break ups. Husband/wife, boyfriend/girlfriend, etc etc. And then we moved on. Most of us found somebody else after that, 99.99% of the time the new person is better than the one who left us or we left. Then we wondered, what was the big deal with the previous one before.
There are different degrees of heart aches after the breakups. Very hurtful, hurtful, mildly hurtful, or felt nothing. It depends on the length of the relationship, the dependence of one person on the other, the number and age of the children, the amount of wealth, the sacrifice been made, the suffering during the marriage or whatever that one may have felt.
In unhappy unions, women stayed in a relationship until they got dumped and men stayed in a relationship until they found somebody better. At other times, it’s the other way around. However this may take years to happen, lots of hurtful things happen meanwhile and the final inevitable break-ups became more bitter.
In happy unions (not necessarily a perfect one), we think we have found our match and love and therefore will work on the marriage/relationship. Life is much better. Both will work towards a common objective without deviating too much from the family core. This we normally have after much hardship, sometimes at later stage of our life, thus came the phrase “ Life starts after forty”. Others that found them easy and early and are most definitely the luckier ones.
My empathy goes to those who are still pained by the experience of breakups. I can understand the hurt, the pain, the revenge. Each situation is unique by itself. Some men(women) are really xSSxxxxxS. But feelings are just feelings created by us and our thoughts. Forgive and forget is unthinkably difficult but has been proven time after time as the best solution. The best revenge is not to focus on the undeserved other person but to ourselves, family and our life. Let’s move on, God has much more to offer us. Don’t be afraid to let go and be happy.
